I keep thinking on what Love is, a lot more, these days. I used to believe that if someone spends a lot of time with somebody & specially if they are of opposite genders, they tend to fall in love. Isn’t it so?
I believe that a boy & a girl can’t be friends at all. If they could say so, I wish they could be true to themselves. Atleast, in some course of their friendship, they would have thought about getting together (I mean, in a platonic sense) in life. This thought would have occurred secretly & seperately! I suppose, thats a practical thought & there is no guilt associated. One can possibly ignore the other, only for reasons that are external; such as humiliation, family settings, prosperity, etc. If someone (opp. gender) is a friend of you, which means he/she has already adjusted/matched with your personality. Marrying such a friend is much better than arranging a marriage with someone else & is very plausible.
So, if I have, say n friends, how to choose “a” (or “the”, possibly) person for this kinda relationship upgrade. How to identify/grab the person when he/she comes in one’s life? Because I have serious doubts on whom to love & whom to ignore! <:o(
I asked this to someone I know & this was the reply (edited):
> Love is a different but a special feeling. When your inner heart > starts to smile, the moment you see a person. Gottcha!, he/she is the > person to grab. You will feel to miss something when that person is > not with you, even for a minute. You will not care for anything else > in the world. You will be ready to take any risk for him/her in your > life. Its more like listen & follow your inner heart. It will always > be right.
Damn! I haven’t yet “felt” such things with any person. And, I don’t think, I would ever feel so! <:o( So what to do? Wait for the “Natural Selection” to happen! >:O)
Also, I understood this with the help of my friends:
> Love is something that cannot be tried with a person! No effort can to > be put to start & run Love. Its a natural process & germinates on > suitable environmental conditions. Wait for it to happen. Don’t ever > try to catalyst. You withdraw your waiting, when you timeout. Have no > despair.
Here is a FWed from another of my friends:
> Once, there was this guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn’t the > most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything. He used > to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His > friends told him, “why do you dream so much about her, when you don’t > even know if she loves you or not?
> First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or > not”. He felt that was the right way. The girl knew from the > beginning, that this guy loves her.One day when he proposed, she > rejected him. His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. > and ruin his life. To their surprise, he was not depressed. When they > asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied, “‘why should I > feel bad? I lost one who never loved me & she lost the one who really > loved and cared for her.”
> Never Cry for One Who Makes You Cry!
So don’t waste your time in “trying/forcing” something, let the patience reward you. >:O) Best Wishes. Cheers!